The problem with us, with humans, with society, is that we always want immediate answers or explanations for our questions and problems. We’re impatient. A hallmark of humanity. But God has always made it very clear that our realm of understanding is still in an embryonic stage and while we continue to play out our mortality, it will remain so:
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.” – Isaiah 55:8-9
I know someone, as I’m sure you may as well, who has “left” the church because they didn’t have the answer to an important question (to them), and even if the answer was given from the ordained prophet, they rejected it. And that’s what it comes down to really: Oftentimes a deep seated issue they have with the Church, something they can’t quite let go or be patient with, can be traced back to their lack of belief that the Church’s current prophet was truly called to his station by God.
Ironically, some Church members are arguing with or complaining against modern revelation, the very thing that was taken from the Church shortly after the apostles died, because man decided that the Bible was all they needed. THEY shut themselves out from God, so God withdrew the miracle of revelation. In effect, some members are saying “hey, we don’t want modern revelation anymore because we know better. We’re technologically and intellectually advanced enough to be able to lead the Church with our own ideas.”
It is true that there are certain cultural traditions within the Church that aren’t actual doctrine, they were merely perpetuated by the circumstance and time period in which the Church grew. For example, it is not Church doctrine that women wear a dress to Church, however it is recommended that Church goers wear their very best, and traditionally speaking that has been a dress for women and thus the pattern has persisted. If you are ridiculing or complaining against the Church for inconsequential norms like wearing a dress to Church, you need to look deeper within yourself to discover what the real issue is.
It can be made quite simple really: If you have faith that President Monson is the true and living prophet today, then it follows that we should be able to understand that even if there is a doctrine we feel is dated or a historical aspect we don’t approve of, the Church is still true.
Even more, how dare we, as mortal beings, demand a divine or manmade change to Christ’s Church to bring it into submission with current trends? That’s not a Church at all, that’s a child complaining to a parent. If you do have faith that the prophet is called of God, any other “issue” that arises about the Church shouldn’t truly upset your testimony. But if you don’t have a belief in modern revelation then you will certainly be more willing to jump on the latest wave of societal truth.